Do your control strategies really work

JT at yahoo groups ACT_for_the_Public shares his views on "control is the problem".

In general, when it looks like some thought/emotion control strategies are working, I think the kinds of questions to ask yourself are:
Do the control strategies that appear to be working work over the long term, or just the short term? Do these control strategies work in the way that you fundamentally hoped they would? If these control strategies really work over the long run, why do you still find yourself struggling with anxiety (or any other unpleasant emotion or thought)? Does engaging in those control strategies slow down or prevent your movement toward your values at all? If so, is that reason enough for you not to use them? Is it possible that some factor(s) other than your control strategies (for example, the passage of time; the fact that conditions in your life have changed; etc.) might be responsible for reductions in unpleasant thoughts/feelings? If, after honestly thinking about these issues, your answer is still "yes, one or more of my control strategies appears to work", that's fine. Keep noticing what happens over time when you use those control strategies (and keep doing the ACT willingness, values, and defusion stuff as well--not to control, but to experience and move forward). If they really work, it will become apparent over time. Best, JT (link)