Attention Seeking or Borderline Personality Disorder


Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness of dysregulation, dyscontrol and impulsivity. People with BPD are highly emotionally sensitive. People with BPD react strongly to negative emotional cues. The acting out behavior can range from making a scene in a restaurant, to generating conflict in relationships, or intentionally hurting themselves by cutting or burning, or other forms of self mutilation. These types of behaviors represent desperate efforts in obtaining relief from very intense feelings.

People with BPD take longer to recover from emotional states than others. BPD can be extremely stressful on close interpersonal relationships, especially family, partners and friends. People with BPD can feel that they are awash with negative emotions, drowning in a sea of sadness, anger, desperation and shame. The behavior you might see in a BPD friend, family member or colleague is most often driven by an overwhelming desire to feel better in the moment.

Bon Dobbs is the creator and operator of the Anything To Stop the Pain blog and ATSTP Internet Support List. This site is for partners and parents of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (collectively, the nons).  Bon has lived with his wife of 20 years who is diagnosed with BPD and has done his own extensive research on treatment and recovery from BPD. He's posted a very excellent slide show and pdf on understanding BPD. This presentation includes his “4 rules” for Non-BP’s for dealing with the relationship and for taking care of yourself.


My name is Dave Ebaugh, and I've been helping individuals with complex diagnosis and personality disorders for over 20 years. Give me a call or scroll down to fill out the contact form below. I can answer your questions or set up a free consultation in my office. Let's talk to see if I can help you.

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